So, here it is my first blog for about 3 years and it all began whilst browsing through a bridal magazine.
Wedding magazines portray that romantic and exciting imagery for those that are about to say their "I Dos", to get ideas and inspiration and make those women who are usually of perfect sanity transform into the ‘Bridezillas’.
However, the first thing that I observed was, ‘Where is the section for grooms?’ Not a single mention, article or area focused on suits and the different styles of tailoring that could be available, nada, nothing, zilch! Now, I am not sure why this came to my attention, maybe I read these magazines with a different eye from my time in the industry… But surely there should be a segment for the Grooms?
Even if there’s a few pages at the back, if you turn the magazine back to front and upside down to segregate the two sections or even if its just one singular page within the magazine, why can this not be in place?
A wedding in my mind (and I hope in others) is about unity, the Bride and the Groom announcing their love for each other… so why be just about the bride? There are 2 people involved in a marriage and two little people on the wedding cake so let’s release the articles and imagery for the grooms!
TV shows such as ‘‘ have brought the roles of weddings to the foreground in terms of the groom playing the role that is usually taken over by the bride. Yes, perhaps the show was created to either make a point that a groom is more than capable of making those oh so important and stressful decisions. However, my opinion is that these shows have only enforced the mindsets that the Grooms will not be as able as the bride, maybe even to make them appear inadequate.
From working in bridal, I completely understand that the dress is the key item, that all-important moment. How about for the groom? Is their suit as important as the bride’s dress? In my eyes, yes! A woman can’t wear her wedding dress more than once, but can somehow justify buying an expensive gown for just one day. So why should the groom skimp out on his suit? Is this not as important? Plus, as much as it being a special occasion and you want to look and feel your best, a suit has the versatility that you can wear it again and again! It’s a win win!
And how’s this for an idea… when you and your soul mate hit that 25 year anniversary and if you feel like renewing your wedding vows (as this seems to be the fashionable thing to do, even if you have only hit 7 years!). It could be a rather fun idea to get the suit you wore all those years ago made again! You may have gained some extra padding in those 25 years, but we could accommodate that in the style of the era and in a suit that fits- excuse the pun!
In an age where convenience has replaced quality, the Wedding Dress seems to have escaped this. Is it the case for the guys? With a grooms suit there should be a focus, they should be able to feel that they can have that rock star treatment the brides receive, where they find their perfect suit and have just as many options.
The man should not be made to feel like a second class member of what should be the most important day of his life. As much as he may want to spoil his eternal soul mate, he wants to feel equality throughout the planning, the wedding and the entire marriage! The independent bridal store is such an integral place on the high street but the men are left to head to department stores such as Debenhams or Marks and Spencer. Not that there’s anything wrong with the quality of the suits, it’s the fact that the man’s clothes are an afterthought.
This is where bespoke tailoring needs to be pushed and pushed.
In the film High Society starred Bing Crosby and Frank Sinatra and the plot centered on weddings, this just oozed pure class and elegance. Men look so handsome and debonair. To me this is the feeling a man should have when picking (in some cases) his perfect suit. Back then suits were tailor made, fitted to you and you only, your chance at making a statement.
At the end of the day form is temporary and class is permanent. Class is timeless and you can never pay too much for quality and confidence.